Watching Daily At Wisdom's Gates

A Yorkshireman's take on life, death, and eternity

Month: Dec, 2015

Singleness is good (4)

The previous reference is Isaiah 56:3b-5

Biblically, eunuchs aren’t just those who have been castrated, who have been rendered physically unable to fulfil a marital duty. Jesus’ definition is as follows (Matthew 19:12):

“For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven”.

More on that later, but when the Lord speaks of eunuchs in Isaiah, he is talking about all who are single. And Isaiah isn’t just applicable to 7th C BC Jews: he was prophesying of the future. When he wrote of Sabbaths he didn’t mean those eunuchs who have the right theology on days of rest, but on those singles whose rest is found not in a married relationship, but in the Lord of the Sabbath. When Isaiah wrote of the covenant he wasn’t talking about singles who perfectly kept the old covenant, but those who love the Lord of the new covenant, and love others as themselves.

So Isaiah’s promises are for all Christian singles, that the Lord will give them an everlasting name within his house, the church, that is better than anything marriage can offer. It is better to have a spiritual monument in the church for being a faithful single than to have many sons and daughters.

Singleness is good (3)

When the Bible says that aloneness is not good, it cannot mean that marriage is theย only answer to loneliness, because some of it’s greatest characters were single and content.

David, the man after God’s own heart and a married man, saw his friendship with Jonathan and the love they had as more wonderful than that of women.

The solution to loneliness for singles may not first and foremost be to get married but to cultivate deep spiritual friendships where hearts are knit together in mutual love for the Lord and one another.

Isaiah has great words of encouragement from the Lord for singles: “let not the eunuch say ย  ย  ย  “Behold, I am only a dry tree”. For thus says the Lord, “to the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths; who choose the things that please me and hold fast to my covenant, I will give in my house and within my walls a monument and a name better than sons or daughters; I will give them an everlasting name that shall not be cut off”


Singleness is good (2)

My first text seems at first to back the marriage-idoliser’s case. “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (from Genesis 2:18). I’ve heard preachers take this text to mean that marriage is the preferred state of Christian men and women. Wait a minute though! We’re often told not to take verses out of context and here is a classic example.

Jeremiah was single, and never complained that the Lord forbade him to marry (despite all his other complaints!). Paul was single, and stated that it’s better than marriage! And the perfect man Jesus was single! Was the Son of Man somehow incomplete because he never married? Was the Lord Jesus Christ somehow unfulfilled because he didn’t have a wife? God forbid that I should propagate such blasphemy. And if it wasn’t true for him, why should it be true for his followers?




Singleness is good!

Biblical singleness

To the world, singleness is bad. To be single is to be “on the market” to not be single. Singleness is usually hoped to be a temporary state before entering into the idolised status of a relationship.

This attitude has filtered through into the church, with the added dimension that it rightly upholds Biblical marriage as the most blessed, God-ordained human relationship. Understandably, those who enjoy the blessed estate of marriage assume that their single brethren desire, should, or perhaps even need to enjoy the same blessing.

But it ain’t necessarily so, and I will give a brief Biblical theology as to why marriage shouldn’t be assumed as the be-all-and-end-all in human relationships.